Slut” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “yes”....– angels-and-angles (via bornthisbrown)
Cis straight white people are trying to shut Arkh... →
thearkhproject: Yesterday, notice was received from Kate at Indiegogo that part of #Arkh’s pitch on indiegogo was “unlawful”. Namely, that the lines about using the money to hire queer people and PoC artists were “breaking anti-discrimination laws”. Now Arkh’s goal is to not only make…
Ultra-Orthodox Jews and the Modesty Fight →
What is behind these deeply disturbing events? We are told that they arise from a religious concern about modesty, that women must be covered and sequestered so that men do not have improper sexual thoughts. It seems, then, that a religious tenet that begins with men’s sexual thoughts ends with men controlling women’s bodies. This is not a problem unique to Judaism. But the Talmud, the basis for...
Consent Culture: Consent Culture wants to Go On... →
consentculture: So Maggie Mayhem and Kitty Stryker did a Safe/Ward workshop discussing consent and entitlement in the kink community a few months ago and it was a roaring success. They pitched it to the feminism and sexuality conference Momentum at the same time. It was accepted, which is awesome- but they…
Rape more common than smoking →
Clearly, I was asking for it. It being rape and (possible) future lung cancer.
30 Days of Kink - Day 4 (slightly late)
Day 4: Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hinted at your kinks? Really, I can’t think of any. I was spanked as a kid pretty harshly, but the things my father used to beat me have zero interest to me as kink toys now. (Hot Wheels car tracks, by the way. The edges dig in extra.) I also used to self-injure, but I’m not interested in cuttings or knife play… well, knife play...
30 Days of Kink: Day 3
Day 3: How did you discover you were kinky? I really can’t remember. Probably a non-negotiated ass-slapping during doggy style that I liked. I’ve always been a dirty, naughty, sexual being.
30 Days of Kink - Day 2
Day 2: List your kinks. I kink HARD on breath play. Specifically, choking. This is reason (a) why I practice RACK rather than SSC. Also because SSC is ableist as fuck. But breath play was one of my first kinks I included in my sex play until my boyfriend at the time said he wouldn’t do it anymore because I was becoming “too kinky.” OH BOY LOOK AT ME NOW. I love impact play. I...
30 Days of Kink - Day 1
Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us. Switchy sadomasochist. I am way more interesting in topping/bottoming than domming/subbing. I am not big into power exchange, although there are a few people I enjoy submitting to. Mostly, I like to hurt and be hurt. My play runs...
The Riot: [Trigger warning for sexual assault]A... →
theriotmag: [Trigger warning for sexual assault] A friend of mine who was sexually assaulted by her then-boyfriend and his friend six years ago recently found out that he posted an account of it as an erotic story on Fetlife (which you may or may not know is a social networking site for kinksters). She…
Limerence has certain general, basic components: …Intrusive thinking about the “limerent object” (L.O.) …An intensity of feeling for the LO that leaves other concerns in the background …Acute longing for reciprocation …Occasional fleeting relief from unrequited limerence when vividly imagining some reciprocal action by the limerent object …Fear of...
Navigating Love and Austim →
#fuckyeahdisabledlove AND WAIT, THE CONCEPT OF NEGOTIATING BOUNDARIES AND ACTIVITIES WAS BROUGHT UP IN A BIG PAPER? HAPPY MUTANT!